Author: Brent

  • 100 Miles For Cancer

    100 Miles For Cancer

    A Challenge For A Cause

    In February, I’ve decided to run 100 miles—not just for myself, but for something much bigger. As I ramp up my mileage in preparation for my upcoming half marathon on March 1st, I’m partnering with the American Cancer Society in a virtual challenge to support those fighting cancer.

    I’m running 100 miles for cancer, and I’d like to share why this means so much to me and why I hope you’ll join me in supporting the cause.

    A Journey Beyond the Miles

    Running has always been a personal challenge—an opportunity for growth, self-discipline, and pushing through physical and mental boundaries. But in February, my miles will carry a deeper purpose. As I run each step, I will do it in honor of those who have battled and lost, those who are still fighting, and those who have fought and won. This challenge is about more than just endurance—it’s about remembering loved ones and supporting those in the fight against cancer right now.

    While my half marathon on March 1st unfortunately won’t count towards my 100-mile challenge (it ends February 28th), it still represents the physical and emotional effort that this month is all about. Every mile run will be for them—those whose strength and courage inspire me to keep pushing, especially when it gets tough.

    Honoring the Fighters, Remembering the Lost

    Cancer has impacted nearly every one of us in some way. Whether it’s a loved one who has faced the disease, a friend or family member who is still fighting, or someone we’ve lost too soon, the emotional weight of cancer is undeniable. I’ve seen firsthand how cancer takes its toll, but I’ve also witnessed the incredible resilience of those who fight it with all they have.

    This month, I’m running for everyone who has battled cancer and for the families who have supported them. Whether you’ve lost someone to this disease, or you know someone currently in the fight, I hope you’ll take a moment to reflect on those warriors and their strength.

    Why 100 Miles?

    Running 100 miles in one month is no small feat. But I’ve chosen this challenge because it symbolizes the perseverance and determination needed to overcome cancer. Each mile represents a step toward raising awareness, offering support, and raising funds for critical research that continues to push us closer to a cure.

    I believe in the power of community, and that’s why I’m asking for your support. Every donation to my JustGiving page goes toward cancer research and support for those who need it most. Together, we can make a tangible difference.

    How You Can Help

    I’d be honored if you could join me in this journey in any way you can, whether you donate, share this post, or simply offer words of encouragement as I take on this challenge.

    You can follow my progress and contribute to the cause on my fundraising page: Brent Runs for Cancer. Every donation, no matter how small, helps fund cancer research and support services that improve the lives of those fighting this disease.

    Thank you for being part of this journey. With your help, we can make these miles count.


    The miles I run this February will be a physical challenge, but the emotional drive behind them is what will keep me going. This is my way of honoring those who have battled cancer, remembering those we’ve lost, and supporting those who are still fighting with every step.

    Let’s lace up and run this race together.


  • A Step On The Ladder: A Win Worth Building On

    A Step On The Ladder: A Win Worth Building On

    I laced up my shoes before the sun came up and headed downtown for a race I’d been preparing for but wasn’t obsessing over. It wasn’t the big one circled on my calendar — just another step in my half-marathon training plan. I’ve done plenty of 5Ks before, so I felt calm and confident, ready for the test ahead.

    The cool air was alive with the energy of other runners, all with their own reasons for showing up. Some were chasing medals, others chasing fitness. For me, it was simple: I came to get better. I came to run fast. A light rain had started to fall, adding a sharp edge to the cold morning. It soaked the pavement and clung to my clothes, but it didn’t matter. Rain, cold, or discomfort — they were just part of the challenge.

    When the race started, the rhythm came easy. One step, then another. Downtown Greenville blurred around me, the familiar streets transformed by the pounding of feet and the cheer of onlookers. I wasn’t thinking about the finish line, not yet. I focused on breathing, pace, and staying steady.

    Midway through, that familiar tug of doubt crept in. My legs ached. I glanced at my watch and noticed how far ahead of pace I was. My mind whispered that slowing down was fine, that I’d already done enough. But here’s the thing about training for anything worth doing — you learn to quiet the voices that beg for comfort. I kept going.

    When I crossed the finish line, I looked at my watch: 28:38. A new personal record.

    It felt good. Better than good.

    But not because of the number itself — I know a PR isn’t the goal. It’s a rung on a much taller ladder. The real prize is still 32 days away, on a longer course, with a bigger test waiting.

    32 days.

    32 chances to show up.

    32 opportunities to grind.

    Every training run, every mile logged, is a step closer to the race that matters. The lesson I took from my last race is simple but powerful: Progress doesn’t come from chasing perfection; it comes from relentless persistence.

    I’ve got 32 days to embrace the work. To rise before the sun. To push my limits.

    I proved I’m stronger than I was before. And next time, I’ll be stronger still.

    The work continues...


  • My Pickleball Journey from 3.0 to 3.5 and Beyond

    My Pickleball Journey from 3.0 to 3.5 and Beyond

    When I first picked up a pickleball paddle in 2021, all I knew about it came from friends and the internet. Back in 2021, the sport didn’t have the country in the chokehold it does today. Despite its historically low profile, all of the stereotypes rang true in my mind: Isn’t that a silly game for retired geriatrics? It’s not an athletic sport! And it certainly wouldn’t be any fun… right? Right?

    The Rising Popularity of Pickleball and The Evolution of the Game

    line chart showing the rise of popularity of pickleball through search volume trends via Google over the years of 2014 through 2024

    Boy, was I wrong. And I certainly didn’t expect it to hook me the way it did. The sport has changed dramatically since its rise in popularity just in a few short years. Today the sport is played by a greater variety of demographics; it’s faster, more competitive, and more exciting than ever.

    This is partly due to improved paddle and ball technology, but it’s also an inevitable adaptation of athletic playing style and the human pursuit of peak performance: Faster + Stronger = Better!

    Mental Resilience Reigns Supreme

    But accomplishment on the court is not dominated by speed and power. It’s much more dimensional than that. At its core, pickleball is a game of nuance and variety. The heart of any racquet sport is precision, strategy, and adaptability. The soft game, the ability to read your opponent’s positioning, and the mastery of placement over raw strength all come together to create a dynamic and layered experience. It’s not just about who can hit the hardest or fastest; it’s about making smart decisions, controlling the pace, and adjusting to the ever-changing rhythm of the match. Most of all, mental resilience—the ability to reset after a mistake.

    Mistakes are unavoidable in every sport. The key isn’t in eliminating them, but in the ability to reset quickly after they happen.

    My early days were full of mishits, smashes into the net, and the frustrating habit of trying to speed up every ball. I didn’t understand the idea of point construction. I forced every shot, attempting to win the point with every ball I hit. I certainly didn’t have an inkling about partner strategy or communication.

    I was impatient.

    But I was determined.

    The path from 3.0 to 3.5 wasn’t a straight line. It was a mix of humbling experiences, small victories, and a helluva lot of repetition. Today, I want to share what got me here — and how I’m working to take my game even further.

    The Early Struggles: Consistency and Control

    In the beginning, consistency was my biggest challenge. I would string together a few good shots only to lose momentum with unforced errors. The mistakes would pile up quickly, and before I knew it, my partner and I would be down by multiple points and counting. I lost count of the shutouts. It didn’t matter how good my partner was. I would always find a way to screw up the point and lose the match for both of us.

    It was devastating.

    If I wanted to keep playing this game, I needed to get better. So I focused on mastering the soft game — dinks and drop shots — which forced me to slow things down. Drilling these skills was tedious at first, but it gave me more control over rallies. Developing touch and feel transformed how I approached each shot, and it’s what moved me solidly into the 3.5 category.

    Lessons That Made the Biggest Difference

    Here’s what I believe had the greatest impact on my skill level:

    1. Learning Patience & Positioning at the Kitchen Line

    Patience in the point doesn’t come naturally. I tried to win from anywhere BUT the kitchen line. Once I committed to winning “at the line“, and softening my play, my consistency improved. I began to see the value of waiting for the right opportunity rather than forcing the point.

    2. Footwork, Footwork, Footwork

    Good footwork is underrated. I started focusing on my positioning, making sure I was balanced before hitting shots. Moving into the correct spot instead of reaching was a game-changer for both my power and accuracy.

    3. Better Court Awareness

    Pickleball isn’t just about hitting the ball; it’s about strategy. I worked on recognizing patterns, anticipating my opponents’ moves, and playing smarter rather than harder. It’s amazing how much difference a simple adjustment in placement can make.

    4. Embracing Drill Work

    I won’t lie — like most players, I enjoy games more than drills. But drilling serves, returns, drops, and dinks gave me the muscle memory I needed to get out of my head and play more confidently. I learned that practice without pressure is essential if you want to improve.

    What I’m Working on Now

    While I feel confident in my skill level as a 3.5+ player, I’m far from satisfied. Here’s where my focus is as I improve to 4.0+:

    Speed and Reaction Time

    At 4.0, points move faster, and players hit harder. I’m working on reacting quicker at the net, especially in fast-paced hand battles. Speed-up and reset drills are a consistent part of my routine now.

    Doubles Strategy

    If you’ve ever been matched with an unequally skilled partner (who hasn’t?), you understand partnership strategy can win or lose the match. Communication with a partner is key to winning at this level. I’m studying positioning, court coverage, and shot selection to play smarter doubles.

    Mental Toughness

    Pickleball is a mental game as much as a physical one. Staying calm under pressure and staying positive after mistakes are skills I’m actively developing. It’s a work in progress, but it makes a big difference. This is where I see the greatest area for improvement.

    The Journey Ahead

    Pickleball has been an incredible teacher. It’s shown me how to be patient, how to adapt to things out of my control, think strategically, and keep pushing my limits. As I work toward 4.0, I’m reminded that improvement comes from consistent effort, a willingness to learn, and, of course, a love of the game.

    Helpful Resources

    What is Pickleball and How Do You Play?

    If you’re curious and want to get started with the game of Pickleball, check out these resources on UpstatePickleball.com.

    What is a Pickleball Skill Rating?

    If you play Pickleball but don’t understand the skill rating system, here’s a great guide on how to self-rate your skill level.

    How To Find People To Play With?

    If you are an introvert like me and don’t go to the courts with a consistent group of friends, then finding players can be difficult. Check out social media, specifically groups on Facebook. Most local communities use a combination of social media and mobile apps for coordinating play and communication. In my region of the Upstate of South Carolina, we use a Facebook group (currently 9k members and growing) and most parks are on the TeamReach app.

    Wherever you are in your pickleball journey, I hope my story reminds you that progress is possible with the right mindset. Be adaptable, stay coachable, and never stop drilling.

    Let’s awaken the fire within. ❤️‍🔥


  • The Change Is In The Challenge

    The Change Is In The Challenge

    There’s a special kind of satisfaction that comes from seeing a project through to the end, especially when it doesn’t go as planned. I recently tackled a home repair DIY project that turned out to be more of an adventure than I’d bargained for. What started as a simple task—replacing a rotten wall panel and some insulation—quickly spiraled into something much bigger:

    • Replacing all the insulation
    • Re-running electrical wiring
    • Removing old newspaper insulation under the window sill
    • Spraying foam sealant
    • Caulking the outside brick
    • Adding nail-stopper plates
    • Then finally replacing the wall panel

    It was messy, unexpected, and honestly, overwhelming at times. But finishing it felt incredible because the challenge forced me to adapt, learn, and grow.

    The Metaphor: Therapy Is Like a DIY Project

    Therapy is like a DIY project—messy, unpredictable, and life-changing.

    Home repairs, as it turns out, are a perfect metaphor for therapy. Just like peeling back a wall reveals hidden issues, opening yourself up in therapy can expose complexities you didn’t anticipate. What you thought was one “rotten panel” might be layers of unresolved emotions, unexamined beliefs, or buried experiences.

    And let’s be honest: that can be terrifying. Not only do you have to confront the work itself, but you also face the uncertainty of what lies beneath. Therapy often means diving into unknown territory—places you’ve never explored.

    But here’s the thing: the first time you face those fears is the hardest. Each time after that? It gets a little easier. What once felt impossible starts to feel doable.

    The Transformation

    finished repair wall with bench in front of wall and curtain hung in window
    Better than before!

    That’s the beauty of the work. Therapy takes what feels overwhelming and makes it manageable. Over time, the things you once avoided become things you conquer. They might even become things you enjoy.

    And the best part? It’s life-changing. When you look back, you realize how far you’ve come and wonder, “How was I ever afraid of THAT?” The change is in the challenge.

    Ready to Start?

    If you’re in the Greenville, SC area and looking for a therapist, I can’t recommend Greenville Counseling Associates enough. If you’re elsewhere, Psychology Today and BetterHelp are great places to start your journey.

    Because just like that DIY project, you’re capable of more than you know–and the reward is worth the effort.


  • NF – HOPE

    NF – HOPE

    Nathan Feuerstein, better known by his stage name NF, is an American rapper and songwriter known for his raw, emotional lyrics that delve into struggles with mental health, trauma, and personal growth. Through his music, he offers listeners a powerful way to process pain, find hope, and embrace vulnerability.

    His songwriting teaches us that creativity can be a transformative outlet for emotional release and a tool for healing and self-discovery. NF’s authenticity and unflinching honesty remind us that confronting our darkest moments can lead to strength and resilience.

    In his song HOPE, NF explores the emotional complexity of facing personal struggles and finding strength through adversity. The song emphasizes resilience, urging listeners to hold onto hope even when life is crippling.

    Through powerful, introspective lyrics, NF conveys that healing is possible, and that transformation often begins with confronting our deepest fears. No matter how challenging the journey, we can grow, evolve, and rise above our circumstances. It’s an anthem of perseverance and faith in the face of pain.

    Hope
    Yeah, I’m on my way, I’m coming
    Don’t, don’t lose faith in me
    I know you’ve been waitin’
    I know you’ve been prayin’ for my soul
    Hope, hope

    Thirty years you been draggin’ your feet
    Tellin’ me I’m the reason we’re stagnant
    Thirty years you’ve been claiming you’re honest
    And promising progress, well, where’s it at?
    I don’t want you to feel like a failure (failure)
    I know this hurts
    But I gave you your chance to deliver (deliver)
    Now it’s my turn
    Don’t get me wrong, Nate, you’ve had a great run
    But it’s time to give the people somethin’ different
    So without further ado, I’d
    Like to introduce my
    (My album, my album, my album, my album, my album, my album, my album)
    Hope
    What’s my definition of success? (Of success)
    Listening to what your heart says (your heart says)
    Standing up for what you know is (is)
    Right, while everybody else is (is)
    Tucking their tail between their legs (okay)
    What’s my definition of success? (Of success)
    Creating something no one else can (else can)
    Being brave enough to dream big (big)
    Grindin’ when you’re told to just quit (quit)
    Giving more when you got nothin’ left (left)
    It’s a person that’ll take a chance on
    Something they were told could never happen
    It’s a person that can see the bright side through the dark times when there ain’t one
    It’s when someone who ain’t never had nothin’
    Ain’t afraid to walk away from more profit
    ‘Cause they’d rather do somethin’ that they really love and take the pay cut
    It’s a person that would never waver
    Or change who they are
    Just to try and gain some credibility
    So they could feel accepted by a stranger
    It’s a person that can take the failures in their life and turn them into motivation
    It’s believing in yourself when no one else does, it’s amazing

    What a little bit of faith can do if you don’t even believe in you
    Why would you think or expect anybody else that’s around you to?
    I done did things that I regret
    I done said things I can’t take back
    Was a lost soul at a crossroad who had no hope but I changed that
    I spent years of my life holdin’ on to things I never should’ve kept, full of hatred
    Years of my life carryin’ a lot of baggage that I should’ve walked away from
    Years of my life wishin’ I was someone different, lookin’ for some validation
    Years of my life tryna fill the void, pretending I was in
    They get it

    Growing pain’s a necessary evil
    Difficult to go through, yes, but beneficial
    Some would say having a mental breakdown is a negative thing
    Which on one hand, I agree with
    On the other hand, it was the push I needed
    To get help and start the healing process, see
    If I’d have never hit rock bottom
    Would I be the person that I am today?
    I don’t believe so
    I’m a prime example of what happens when you choose to not accept defeat and face your demons
    Took me thirty years to realize that if you want to get the opportunity
    To be the greatest version of yourself
    Sometimes you got to be someone you’re not to hear the voice of reason
    Having kids will make you really take a step back and look in the mirror
    At least for me that’s what it did, I

    Wake up every day and pick my son up, hold him in my arms
    And let him know he’s loved (loved)
    Standing by the window questioning if dad is ever going to show up (up)
    Isn’t something he’s gon’ have to worry about
    Don’t get it twisted, that wasn’t a shot
    Mama, I forgive you
    I just don’t want him to grow up thinkin’ that he’ll never be enough
    Thirty years of running, thirty years of searching
    Thirty years of hurting, thirty years of pain
    Thirty years of fearful, thirty years of anger
    Thirty years of empty, thirty years of shame
    Thirty years of broken, thirty years of anguish
    Thirty years of hopeless, thirty years of (hey)
    Thirty years of never, thirty years of maybe
    Thirty years of later, thirty years of fake
    Thirty years of hollow, thirty years of sorrow
    Thirty years of darkness, thirty years of (Nate)
    Thirty years of baggage, thirty years of sadness
    Thirty years of stagnant, thirty years of chains
    Thirty years of anxious, thirty years of suffering
    Thirty years of torment, thirty years of (wait)
    Thirty years of bitter, thirty years of lonely
    Thirty years of pushing everyone away
    (You’ll never evolve) I know I can change
    (We are not enough) we are not the same
    (You don’t have the heart) you don’t have the strength
    (You don’t have the will) you don’t have the faith
    (You’ll never be loved, you’ll never be safe
    Might as well give up) not running away
    (You don’t have the guts) you’re the one afraid
    I’m the one in charge
    I’m taking the (no)
    I’m taking the
    Reigns

    Songwriters: Nate Feuerstein / Tommee Profitt
    © Capitol CMG Publishing


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